• Day Eighteen: Just because you accept help from someone, doesn’t mean you have failed. It just means you’re not in it alone. – Eric Messer

    by  • November 10, 2012 • 27 days of healing • 0 Comments

    Today we hosted a family party for our daughter Rion’s tenth birthday and when I woke up I knew exactly what I needed to do for day eighteen; be open to help when I need it. Birthdays to our family are one of the most important celebrations of the year and celebrate is exactly what we do!  However, with this comes a lot of hard work and planning and often exhaustion by the end of the big day.  But this year was very different.

    Over the past six months so many people have been helping our family out.  Angus and Ma redid our driveway, painted our front and back steps, and did lots of work around the house, Da and Priscilla created more garden space for Jonah Wynn, baked, cooked and cleaned, Bruce and Arlene have been helping with babysitting, drives, and needles, and Helen, Terry, and Courtney have been taking me to many of my vast appointments.  This is just the beginning of the help our family has received, as the list is endless.

    What I had planned and expected to be a very busy and tiring day end up being very different.  Brad’s Aunts and cousin Courtney came by a few hours early to help with cooking, cleaning, and decorating for the party.  We got a lot of work done in a short amount of time. I guess what they say is true, “Many hands makes for light work.”  And over an hour before the party we were all sitting down in the living room chatting with everything prepared and ready to go for our guests.

    Each year I receive a lot of help for our birthdays however, I have always found it very difficult to receive and would feel horrible thinking I was burdening others.  But a valuable lesson I learned over the last six months was just as Eric Messer said, “Just because you accept help from someone, doesn’t mean you have failed.  It just means you are not alone.”

    It was great to be able to sit down and enjoy our company and I am sure if I didn’t receive and be open to the help we were given we would not have enjoyed the party as much as we did.  Time flies and before you know it your babies are all grown up.  It is so important to be present for them while you can and it is a hard task to accomplish when you try to do everything yourself.

    Accepting help sometimes feels harder than offering it as you don’t want to burden others however, by not accepting it, not only are you not present but you also rob the person who is doing it the feeling you get from doing good and kind things for others.  The party was truly a labour of love from our family for Rion and it was a wonderful feeling to not feel guilty for accepting the help I was given.  I enjoyed every moment of Rion’s day from start to finish.


    I believe in being a leader without title and always strive to do better. I am inspired by doing kind acts for others and believe in the power of intention. I don't give up just because I am told something can't be done. I ask why and strive to do the impossible. Hardships happen to all of us (everyone has a story) but I choose to look for the rainbow through the storm. I rely on my husband for support - he is my hero. Education is power and I strive to always learn more. I aim to live each day as if it is my last and choose to show people how I like to be treated. I say what I feel and aim to have the people I encounter leave better than they came. I love my career and do it because it is my passion. Because time flies when you enjoy what you do, I slow time down by being present in each moment. I choose to live now with no regrets of "should have". I enjoy life and the people in it.

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